Bras I Hate recently had a great post on breast shape. One thing, though, that also has to be considered is how firm your breasts are. I've had two pregnancies (gained WAY too much in the first one!), have lost a significant amount of weight, breast fed for two years, and now have very, very soft breasts. They're like a liquid in that they fill whatever space they're given.
Now, when I was younger, I had nice firm breasts. Back then my bra size was very, very wrong (36C at 140lbs... however, I'm currently 162lbs and need a 28 back so God only knows what I should've been wearing then!). Yet, I don't remember having back pain until after my first pregnancy so my awfully fitting bras weren't affecting me as much then. Most likely due to how firm my breasts were. I'd even go so far to say that this is why so many (especially young women) are wearing ill-fitting bras. Many times they can get away with a fit that's not 100% perfect because their breasts don't jiggle as much as softer breasts. Don't get me wrong, firm breasts NEED well-fitting bras too but I've seen friends of mine who I know are wearing bands that are way too big still look "perky" because of this.
Now that I have soft breasts a well-fitting bra is 100% vital because my breasts don't stay put. Even in well-fitting bras they'll slide about unless the bra is a complete full-coverage bra. So what's the solution?
Well, if you do have soft breasts like mine I've found the more coverage the better. I think that's why I fell in love instantly with the Fantasie T-Shirt bra the first time I tried it (even though the fit was off).
Even half cup bras can cause quadraboob not even necessarily because the fit is off but because when I lean forward my breast will slide out of the cup and get stuck there. I then have to move my breast back inside the cup so it can get a bit annoying. It's been hard to find much talk about in the lingerie blogging community too because the vast majority of women who blog are young, childless, and haven't experienced major weight changes. Nothing wrong with that but it's made me realize that there are probably a lot of women out there like me who are struggling with finding well-fitting bras for soft breasts!
That doesn't mean you can never have a non-full coverage bra. I recently got the PL Burgund from Ewa Michalak and it really looks great on me. However, I do have some spillage to the middle. My theory (still needs to be proven!) is that a plunge will look better because spillage towards the middle won't show up as a quadraboob whereas a half cup could have the sliding out affect on top with movement, which would result in a quadraboob. At the moment I don't have any half-cups that fit so I'm not 100% sure of that. But I do have some that almost fit if I rearrange myself enough and I see my quadraboob worsen as the day goes by for this very reason.
Unfortunately, I haven't seen many full-coverage bras (especially padded/moulded cup ones, which really are amazing for soft breasts) on the market. I understand that often companies want to market plunges, balconettes, half cups etc to busty women because for so long busty women couldn't find these in their size. However, it's almost come to the point that I really struggle finding practical, everyday bras in my size! I'd really love a moulded or padded full coverage bra up to at least a 28JJ (or better yet 28L... ). Freya Deco's are almost there but they're plunge bras, which would definitely lead to spillage towards the middle. Really, the Fantasie T-shirt bra is perfect but it doesn't go below a 30 band. :(
Now, one that does come in a tight band at least is the Freya Active soft cup bra
AND it comes in 28 bands (TIGHT 28 bands for that matter...). It's not really an every day bra but I have been known to use mine in a fix... Beyond that I'm still searching for good full coverage bra that comes in a moulded/padded cup. I wish Ewa Michalak, Bravissimo, Freya, or Fantasie would make one in a 28 band because those would definitely be my brands of preference.
I have to concede too that going up to larger cup size or two can help. For instance, I can wear the Panache Sienna
Are there any advantages to having soft breasts?
Yes! I've found that there's somewhat of a squishable factor here. NOT that I'm suggesting that you constantly squeeze your breasts into something too small. However, what I have found is that when it comes to soft cups I have a bit more leeway when it comes to the size. This is especially helpful when it comes to sports bras because I prefer a very tight sports bra.
Additionally, maybe it's not a bad thing that because of my softness it alerts me to a bad fit immediately? It keeps me constantly questing for the correct size, which brings more blog posts to you, my readers. :)
Also. I have a lot of history with my breasts. Sure, I might not be as young as I used to be but these breasts have been with me through pregnancies, breastfeeding and weight loss. Their softness reminds me of that (in a good way!).
Has anybody else found something that works for soft breasts? If so please let me know!