Saturday, February 25, 2012

Soft vs. Firm Breasts

Bras I Hate recently had a great post on breast shape.  One thing, though, that also has to be considered is how firm your breasts are.  I've had two pregnancies (gained WAY too much in the first one!), have lost a significant amount of weight, breast fed for two years, and now have very, very soft breasts.  They're like a liquid in that they fill whatever space they're given.

Now, when I was younger, I had nice firm breasts.  Back then my bra size was very, very wrong (36C at 140lbs... however, I'm currently 162lbs and need a 28 back so God only knows what I should've been wearing then!).  Yet, I don't remember having back pain until after my first pregnancy so my awfully fitting bras weren't affecting me as much then.  Most likely due to how firm my breasts were.  I'd even go so far to say that this is why so many (especially young women) are wearing ill-fitting bras.  Many times they can get away with a fit that's not 100% perfect because their breasts don't jiggle as much as softer breasts.  Don't get me wrong, firm breasts NEED well-fitting bras too but I've seen friends of mine who I know are wearing bands that are way too big still look "perky" because of this. 

Now that I have soft breasts a well-fitting bra is 100% vital because my breasts don't stay put.  Even in well-fitting bras they'll slide about unless the bra is a complete full-coverage bra.  So what's the solution?

Well, if you do have soft breasts like mine I've found the more coverage the better.  I think that's why I fell in love instantly with the Fantasie T-Shirt bra the first time I tried it (even though the fit was off).

Even half cup bras can cause quadraboob not even necessarily because the fit is off but because when I lean forward my breast will slide out of the cup and get stuck there.  I then have to move my breast back inside the cup so it can get a bit annoying.  It's been hard to find much talk about in the lingerie blogging community too because the vast majority of women who blog are young, childless, and haven't experienced major weight changes.  Nothing wrong with that but it's made me realize that there are probably a lot of women out there like me who are struggling with finding well-fitting bras for soft breasts!

That doesn't mean you can never have a non-full coverage bra.  I recently got the PL Burgund from Ewa Michalak and it really looks great on me.  However, I do have some spillage to the middle.  My theory (still needs to be proven!) is that a plunge will look better because spillage towards the middle won't show up as a quadraboob whereas a half cup could have the sliding out affect on top with movement, which would result in a quadraboob.  At the moment I don't have any half-cups that fit so I'm not 100% sure of that.  But I do have some that almost fit if I rearrange myself enough and I see my quadraboob worsen as the day goes by for this very reason.

Unfortunately, I haven't seen many full-coverage bras (especially padded/moulded cup ones, which really are amazing for soft breasts) on the market.  I understand that often companies want to market plunges, balconettes, half cups etc to busty women because for so long busty women couldn't find these in their size.  However, it's almost come to the point that I really struggle finding practical, everyday bras in my size!  I'd really love a moulded or padded full coverage bra up to at least a 28JJ (or better yet 28L... ). Freya Deco's are almost there but they're plunge bras, which would definitely lead to spillage towards the middle.  Really, the Fantasie T-shirt bra is perfect but it doesn't go below a 30 band.  :(


Now, one that does come in a tight band at least is the Freya Active soft cup bra

AND it comes in 28 bands (TIGHT 28 bands for that matter...).  It's not really an every day bra but I have been known to use mine in a fix... Beyond that I'm still searching for good full coverage bra that comes in a moulded/padded cup.  I wish Ewa Michalak, Bravissimo, Freya, or Fantasie would make one in a 28 band because those would definitely be my brands of preference.

I have to concede too that going up to larger cup size or two can help.  For instance, I can wear the Panache Sienna
in 30J and even though I have gapping on top, the cups wrinkle, and the underwires dig into my ribs like crazy, it's the only bra at the moment that doesn't give any spillage whatsoever (although it did before when I was actually the right size for it and there was no gapping/wrinkling). 

Are there any advantages to having soft breasts? 

Yes!  I've found that there's somewhat of a squishable factor here.  NOT that I'm suggesting that you constantly squeeze your breasts into something too small.  However, what I have found is that when it comes to soft cups I have a bit more leeway when it comes to the size.  This is especially helpful when it comes to sports bras because I prefer a very tight sports bra. 

Additionally, maybe it's not a bad thing that because of my softness it alerts me to a bad fit immediately?  It keeps me constantly questing for the correct size, which brings more blog posts to you, my readers. :)

Also.  I have a lot of history with my breasts.  Sure, I might not be as young as I used to be but these breasts have been with me through pregnancies, breastfeeding and weight loss.  Their softness reminds me of that (in a good way!). 

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Has anybody else found something that works for soft breasts?  If so please let me know!

51 comments:

  1. I thought I had firm breasts, but bras with high gores seem to work best for my shape. My breasts are fairly fibrocystic, at least, and perky enough that they can hold one but not two pencils (despite being 28GGs). But if the gore is not high enough, my breasts spill towards each other. The Deco is okay, though obviously doesn't go big enough for my boobs so they definitely support each other in the middle.

    I've ordered 55HH Ewa Michalaks (two CH and one HP) and hope that my boobs do not grow in the meantime! I will post their measurements to Bratabase--there is a lack of <28 bands there, reflecting the dearth in the business.

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    1. I'm looking forward to hearing about your experience with CH and HP! I really liked my CH Onyx while I could use it. The shape is really amazing on the Ewa Michalak bras. :D

      I haven't tried the pencil test but I'm pretty sure I'd fail it. ;)

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    2. I haven't found my perfect EM size yet, but here's what I do know:
      CH lifts, separates and...leaves my boobs sort of feeling exposed. That is, they sort of bounce around more than I'd like, because the top isn't covered. This might be mitigated in the proper size, though.

      HP holds me close in and gives support. The gore is higher than the Deco so my boobs don't fall towards each other, but they still give the sort of wow cleavage look of the Deco. I still get a bit of the quadraboob, probably because my breasts are softer.

      For what it's worth, my breasts are rather pear shaped, and full cup bras don't work for me because there's so much vacant space up top.

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    3. (Um, that's Knittinggoddess, but Google Blogs isn't behaving.)

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    4. Does the pencil test show how soft your tissue is or something? I thought I had somewhat soft tissue, but I could easily stick a pencil underneath and it stays with no effort. I'm confused now.

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    5. It's the opposite criss. So if you have soft tissue you'll be able to hold the pencil in place, if you have firm breasts it should fall down. Although,I'm not sure how valid it is when you have larger breasts being that gravity always plays a role. ;)

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    6. Oh. :( Honestly, I feel like my breasts are weird and undefinable. They're very flat on top and bottom-heavy, making all bras fit weird and my breasts appearing smaller than they actually are. I don't actually think they're that soft (a little soft, but not terribly so, according to Helena's advice), but I DO have loose skin. I used to cry if I laid down on my side without a bra, because my skin would wrinkle and pucker, and it made me sad to think I had such a problem at 23-25 years of age.

      I don't know if I'll ever have a bra that fully fits AND looks amazing. :(

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    7. Criss, I can definitely relate to the wrinkling. My breasts have wrinkling whenever I put them into bras, basically. Although, my guess is that mine are quite a bit softer than your due to age/pregnancy etc.

      I still have hope that there is SOME bra out there that gets both the look and the fit down. There are a few that work well on separate issues but I have yet to find one that covers all the bases.

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    8. My EM half-cup bra comes as close as I've ever been able to find before. I'm starting to realize I NEED half-cup bras for my breasts. It's just hard to find one that doesn't completely separate the breasts, like balconettes tend to do.

      I'm so glad we have each other to relate to about this. It's good to not feel alone.

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    9. No problem! Yes, that was exactly the reason why I had to share most of the things in my blog. I was going crazy with all these fit issues that nobody else seemed to have.

      I remember when I got my first EM bra, I loved it so much but I kept getting spillage towards the center and I couldn't figure out what was going on (and there wasn't any real advice out there either except to go up or down in size). You're definitely not alone! :D

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  2. Great post, which brings to attention the difference between support and uplift. I believe lots of younger women with firmer breasts get the two confused.

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    1. Agreed! I've heard women say that they don't expect their large breasts to be uplifted but what I don't think that they understand is that uplifted breasts = well-supported breasts. So on the opposite side of the coin even "older" women can have uplifted breasts. ;)

      I just wish younger women knew that even though you have firm breasts you still need supportive bras. :)

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    2. That's the thing though, I don't believe that uplifted = well supported. For instance, push-up bras typically give lots of uplift but little support, whereas most full-cup and sport bras are the opposite. Don't get me wrong, you should get some uplift from those as well of course and sometimes you can get the best of both world, (Oh Dotty spot, I'm thinking about you here!) but having boobs to your chin doesn't necessarily eliminate the bounce factor. I should actually write a post about that!

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    3. Oh, sorry for the confusion. I didn't necessarily mean uplift that's super high. I meant more not having your breasts down to your belly button. ;)

      But I'd love to see your post and I agree. I have bras that are way too small in the cup which give me uplift but, man, they are uncomfortable and give me quadraboob, so it's a pretty scary uplift! :D

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  3. I'm with you on the soft breasts, that's the trouble with all these wonderful reviews...age and childbearing and biological function really changed the tissue and I have trouble figuring out if something really doesn't fit or if I am just sliding out during the day. I'll be keeping on eye on what you might find.

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    1. Yes, I think that's exactly it. Women who have experienced a number of weight changes and/or pregnancy etc just have different needs when it comes to their breasts. When I first started looking reading blogs I was always confused on how women could wear lower cut bras and their breasts were staying put! :D

      I plan on writing another post on this with some suggestions. It really is tricky and it gets worse if you're in the smaller band regions because I get the impression that most manufacturers assume that smaller band=younger so the bras just aren't made with soft breast tissue in mind.

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  4. I love that you've brought this up because I was starting to feel like a real misfit! I don't need such a small band, although I did just switch to a 34 from a 36 after all the reading I've been doing.

    So I just tried on at least 40 different bras between the ones from Ewa (nothing fit, will try again) and Nordstrom. Of all the bras I tried I came out with one winner, the Panache Superbra line seems to work the best with my body type. The Ariza fits really well, ok, nearly... I'm in a 34 GG and I have a cup size difference between the two breasts so the bigger one does bulge out a little bit when everything gets tucked in properly. It is supposed to be a balconette but it is pretty full coverage on me. It tacks completely to my chest and hold me with a lot of support. And I love the shape under clothes, round and lifted but not under the chin like the Deco. It was amazing because I could barely get the band buckled and I thought it would be too uncomfortable and tight, but it's been a dream to wear today.

    The other one I think will work but have to wait for a 34H is the Andorra. It has a very similar shape but is a full cup. I'm waiting to see how it feels under the arms. The 36GG was too tall. I am short in the torso so some of the full cups don't work for me and end up jabbing me in the armpit all day. The bonus to the Andorra is that the lace is elasticized on the top of the cup but the bottom and sides are very supportive, so it makes being lopsided less noticeable. I didn't find the Freya Active bra to fit me well at all, it was bulging out funny under the arms, but the front of the cup was tight. Maybe I need to try a smaller size. Going to try the Panache sport bra first.

    Putting it out there in case it helps you!

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    1. Thanks for sharing! You definitely are NOT a misfit, I'd be willing to wager that most women have similar breasts (especially any who have had kids, gained/lost a lot of weight). The Panache Sienna has a similar fit on me so you might like it. One thing that really helped a lot with the bra was sewing the center gore together, it made a world of difference! :D

      I hope you figure out your Ewa Michalak size because the wires underneath the armpits are much lower, so it might be a better for you. ;) Specially, try the HP because I've heard that they hold your breasts closer to your chest so it might be a good fit for you.

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    2. You may be on to something with the gore. Part of the reason the Ariza fits so well is that the material allows the wires to almost sit next to each other on my sternum. I'll check out the Sienna. I'm pretty sure the Ariza comes in a 28 back, but I don't think the Andorra does.

      I am mailing back the Ewa bras and plan on trying the HP this time. I only did the CH and PL and the CH doesn't work with the comfort straps at all, my shoulders are too narrow but it might with the normal straps in the right size. We'll see. Such an adventure.

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    3. Good luck and definitely try out stitching the center gore together. It really has been a big help for me. Also, check for the BP's coming out soon from Ewa Michalak because they are supposed to be made for women with softer breasts.

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    4. So I'm back with more to report. Panache superbras in balconette style do really well for me in 34GG. The balconettes that work end up being more like full coverage bras with my short shoulder to boob ratio and more full-on-the-ends soft breasts.

      I love the Ariza because it works so well with my lopsided issues and tacks to my chest like it was glued on there. It gives an awesome rounded shape for me. It's worked in all colors I've tried.

      The Tango II also fits well, is super comfortable, tacks to the chest, fits like a full coverage on my body but gives a little bit more pointy shape and east/west separation that I don't like. Maybe I will try sewing the gore together.

      The Sienna fit well in a 34H but jeezus, is it an uncomfortable bra under the arms for me! I haven't had the heart to break it in yet, but my spouse made me keep it because he loved how it looked on. Very hot.

      I bought a Fantasie smoothing molded bra in 34 G that does ok, but doesn't tack to the chest at the top as much as it should, and it has a very uncomfortable edging that rolls under on me, so it left a red mark under my sternum that was still there this morning. Argh. I thought it would be more comfortable then the Deco I wasted my money on. I was hopeful that the strapless version could be a possibility for summer. Maybe I'm going to give up on that.

      I'm still waiting on my Ewa bra exchange to happen.

      In talking to the lovely ladies at breakout bras about soft breast tissue and plunge bras they said: "There are some plunge styles that actually contain more separating the breasts and covering around them rather than pushing them together like the Deco style. You can try #1221 by Elomi or #3371 Porcelain Plunge." Guessing the Elomi doesn't come in small bands, since my understanding is that it is a "plus" line.

      Lastly, I tried the CK Princess bra in a 34H and it was too big in the tops of the cups. I'm waiting to see if a 34 GG works better.

      Good luck everyone!

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    5. I'm glad you found some bas that worked well for you, that's always great to hear! Sorry that the Sienna and Fantasie T-shirt bras weren't the best fit. You could always try selling the Fantasie on ebay, I'm sure you could find someone who would buy it.

      Thanks for the Porcelain Plunge heads up. I haven't heard that before but it really would be nice to have a plunge bra that keeps me in place. I'll have to check if they have it in my size! ;)

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    6. I'm going to try bending the wires a little to get the Sienna to fit better under the arms. It was too pretty and looked too good on the girls to send back!

      I'm also contemplating messing with the edging on the Fantasie and maybe stitching it up to see if it will work better. I also thought I'd try tightening the straps to see if it would tack better during the day. The larger cup size didn't work, especially because I'm lopsided.

      I'm too lazy to sell the bras, I just end up donating them, but maybe I should! This whole trial and error thing is expensive.

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    7. Bending the wires has helped me to be able to wear it (that and sewing the center gore together) so hopefully it helps you too! ;)

      Let me know if fixing the Fantasie helps. Bras I hate has done that a few times.

      You should look into it. I really need to do it myself! I have about 4 or 5 bras just sitting in my closet brand new with tags on still...

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  5. I'm another one with squishy boobs! Did you find that the Ewa size calculator was accurate for your softer breasts? After reading so many rave reviews I want to try them, but can't afford to order 5 sizes to see if 1 fits. Their calculator puts me at 75G (34G) but I have a Fantasie 34F that's too big in band and cup. Decisions, decisions...

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    1. No, the calculator didn't work well for me. The band was correct (36 for Ewa and I'm 34 in Panache and Freya) but it put me at an FF or a G and I am at least a GG (probably closer to an H on the big side). So I am going to reorder in 36 GG and see how that does. I think it's hard to get an accurate measurement bent over with boobs that are really squishy!

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    2. Bethany- for me using my normal UK size seems to work for me. However, I have heard that in the larger band size the bands seem to fit tighter and in the smaller sizes they fit looser (I need a 28 so it seems to ring true for me).

      I still haven't figured out the perfect measurement for cup size with squishy boobs, unfortunately. I did some testing here: http://braslessinbrasil.blogspot.com/2012/03/underbust-survey-part-4-bust-variation.html It appears that my cup size is between bent over with a bra on and bent over without a bra on.

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  6. Thanks for the link, I'll check it out. :) Your blog has really opened my eyes to proper fit!

    I'm actually heading to Nordstrom soon (The only store in my area that carries anything close to what I'll need) so hopefully I'll have a better idea of my new size then, and will feel more confident in ordering from Poland.

    My current measurements are 32.5" underbust (does this put me in a 32 or 34 band I wonder...) 38" widest point while standing, 41" while bent over.

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    1. I'd try a 32 band first being that you're closer to that measurement but again trial and error is the best approach. ;) As for cup size I'd try assuming your bust is about 39-40" then so maybe start with a 32G or 32FF. I'm so jealous that you get to try bras on in person, good luck!!! :D

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  7. Thanks so much for the suggestions. :) I still haven't made it to Nordstrom, and I got impatient and ordered some on eBay and Bratabase. So far I have a Chantelle 32f T-shirt bra, a sports bra, and a 30gg Freya from bratabase that the owner said is more like a 32ff all coming in. I'll have to look for some cheap 32g,s to try as well.:)
    Eventually I'll do a blog post about everything when I figure it out.

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    1. Good luck! I hope you find one that fits well. :D

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  8. I have very soft watery breasts too and as far as I remember I have always had them. I remember hating Wonderbra as a teenager because although it gave amazing uplift (in a 38DD) when I crossed the straps, when I bent over my boobs would slap in the middle and make a bid for freedom, usually successfully. They have always been very mobile! I have no children and I don't think theynhave changed much after a recent weight loss (50 lbs). My original size was 38C to D and DD with weight gain. My Bravelution was late. I was in my mid 30's and was researching breast reduction when I found bravissimo which put me in a 34F although I did get into 32 I found them tight but mostly because I wasn't used to it. I was probably a 32 or 33" underbust. After my diet I was 32G but I'm probably needing a 30 band now and need to get some time to try on bras. My under bust is currently 29-31" (breathing in then out).

    I only started reading blogs recently after researching clothing. Pepperberry does not impress me as their prices do not equal their quality. I found Thin and Curvy which is prefect for me. I am an 8-10 UK in trouser and likely top if I was boobless. I found you from there.

    It never occurred to me that breasts were different shapes and textures. Or at least that this would effect bra fit. I kinda imagine they would all just fit in there. I wonder if the manufacturers are aware of the ramifications of breast shape and textures in bra fitting. I suggest many do not as they seem to care little about their product in terms of welfare. Mine are very soft, droopy, tear shaped and wide set. I know that many plung styles don't work for me as I end up having to readjust my chest as they migrate to the middle and form quadraboob. Full coverage is not ideal as I have so little volume up top that I get material wrinkling. Bras that offer the low slung look are similar. I find light padding ok but it does give me a very rounded and false look. This is a huge learning curve for me but I am so grateful that I have the opportunity to learn. So many don't!

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    1. It really does involve A LOT of trial and error to find the right bra, doesn't it? One bra that you really might want to look into is Ewa Michalak. I also have problems with cups that are too tall (I wonder if that's more of your issue in terms of full-fit bras, what brands were you trying?) and Ewa Michalak bras tend to be a lot shorter, which works well for my breasts. They're coming out with the BP shortly which is supposed to be made for softer breast tissue (I haven't tried it yet but definitely plan on it once it comes out!).

      Have you tried BiuBiu in terms of clothes? I'm still waiting on my first order but I've heard the quality is amazing and the prices are definitely lower than Pepperberry.

      Oh, and definitely try out some 30 bands! I've found that I can never get a perfect fit in the cups until I've gotten the band correct.

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    2. I am researching loads just now, I have been quite unwell with an awful gastric flu so that kyboshed my planned visit to Bravissimo. I realise that I am very lucky to be in the UK! It is so much easier here. I wish I knew about EM before now as I had a holiday to Poland a few months back :( It is, however, cheap to fly there from here so who knows...?

      Currently I am mostly in Panache (tango plunge), Freya (rio) and Fantasie (smoothing in full and balconette). They were all basics that I bought to get me in the right size and now too big. The Tango was nice but I would migrate to quadboob eventually. The Rio gave a nice shape I always thought and the Fantasie balconette was better than the full cup and I owned it in a small back band (a 32 when I mostly wore 34) which was tight but gave a good shape. It isn't the most supportive though.

      I never bought any bras while dieting and now I am researching to spend my pennies wisely. I have a few cheap bras I picked up from ebay in a 32G to get me into a smaller size (all budget bras from likes of Asda/Walmart, Next, Marks & Spencer). To continue I need to get a fitting though...

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    3. I hope you feel better! Then definitely get yourself to Bravissimo. :) I just recently had a lot of luck with Cleo George (working on getting that review up tonight) so that might be a good one to try. What's great about it is that it has a very high center gore so there's no spillage towards the center even after moving around a bunch during the day. First time in my life that that's happened! :D

      Well, if you ever get a chance to try on EM's in person, I'm sure that would be a blast but you can always order some online (the shipping costs aren't too bad). :D

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  9. An update on me...
    I've discovered bratabase thanks to June, and now have a Freya 30gg that fits except for poky underwires, but still wearable, and definitely better than what I had before. I've got a 32f chantelle, 32g masquerade, and a 32g marks & Spencer on their way. Between the bratabase listings and eBay I'm getting all of these for about $70.

    Thanks so much for all of your help! It feels so great to have something that fits - no more back pain!

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    1. No problem, and I'm thrilled to hear that you're finding some bras that fit!!! Yay to no more back pain! I've also ordered bras off of bratabase and it was a huge help in nailing down my correct size. :) I'm crossing my fingers that your upcoming order will work well!

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  10. This is a really interesting post. I was really delighted to see it, because my breasts are the same.
    I have to disagree with you though about why it's not widely discussed in the blogging community. I am 25, childless, yet I have the same squishyness, the same liquid-type breasts that fill anything they're given, and also have the falling-out-of-the-cup thing going on too.
    I personally have never blogged about it because I haven't as of yet found a solution. I padded balcony bras or full-coverage bras work best for me, but even then they can still cause problems. I don't actually know how many women have this problem, and I wasn't convinced I could write a post on the topic. I am very glad you have though.

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    1. Sophia, I didn't realize you also had soft breasts. I have to say it's nice to hear that I'm not alone then. :)

      That's a good point that maybe others just really don't know a good solution yet. When you got fitted for CK's top 10 did they ever give you any solutions/suggestions on dealing with soft breasts?

      So far the best bra for me has been the Cleo George that I just got this weekend and I'm hoping to post a review tonight. It's the first time since having my daughter that I don't get spillage out of the bra over the course of a day! I think it's 100% due to the high center gore (probably the highest one I've ever seen), so now I'm planning on trying out some more Cleo's to see if I can get the same effect.

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  11. I'm 22 and I have very soft breasts. They're also "bottom heavy" with a lot of sagging; I've never seen another woman in my life with breasts that look like mine. I've yet to find a bra that fits me the way I want it to because the shape of my breasts are just so different from what bra companies assume all breasts are shaped like. It's frustrating for sure.

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    1. What brands have you tried so far? Also are you sure you're getting a tight enough band because that can certainly help with uplift.

      Your breasts sound very similar to my own and so far the bras that give me the best uplift are Ewa Michalak, Curvy Kate's Thrill Me, and the Cleo George also gives me a good shape (I have reviews on all three here too). I will say, though, that in terms of the best containment for soft breasts (so they don't move around as much throughout the day) the Thrill Me is probably the best because it has higher wires and a high center gore. I actually just ordered another one today! :D

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  12. This post - and especially the comments - made me really happy. I have had soft, hanging breasts my whole life (I'm in my 40s now with no children). I have spent my life assuming that I was one of a handful of women on this planet with breasts like mine since soft, hangy, teardrop or pear shaped breasts are NEVER represented in any form of media whatsoever and are only mentioned in conjunction with some form of the phrase "old lady." I have also been very sad to read blog articles and comments on fuller bra sized blogs by women that indicate that these types of breasts are ones that they are thankful that they don't have and, well, really that firm breasts are the only good ones.

    It's really great to see women talking about this. I don't have any advise for bra brands - I'm still figuring out what works for me after years of thinking the super sad fitting bras were my only option. I can't wait to read more comments and blog posts though. Thanks!

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    1. I'm really glad you've found this helpful! I've tried to be very open about it on my blog because I just couldn't find ANY information out there about breasts like mine. I remember when I first started trying bras close to my size I couldn't figure out why plunges continuously had spillage towards the center even though they would gap elsewhere.

      Soft breasts CAN be gorgeous, though, it's just a matter of finding bras that fit your shape the best. So far the most secure bra that I've found is the Bravissimo Alana but the shape isn't the most exciting for me. For a great shape I prefer Curvy Kate's Thrill Me or any of Ewa Michalak's CHs.

      Good luck on your own bra journey!

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  13. Wow what a good post! I always wondered why some of my bras would leave a horrible gap at the top side, while also spilling in the middle as the day went on.

    I am also a 28 back, and I really like the curvy Kate tease me. The thrill me is good as well, but I have to glue down the ruffles so I can wear them all the time.

    I have noticed that if I lean forward or lay down the cup looks huge and there is a major gap. But when I stand normal and tighten the straps my breasts look supported and there is no gap.

    Im not sure if I should go down a cup size, but I'm considering it. Any advice on this leaning forward or laying down issue?

    Thanks!!

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  14. I'm so glad I found this post! I've had soft breasts since I entered puberty and had tiny nubs, I always felt like they were a huge issue and I would never find bra that fits. Actually, at some point, I believe they were responsible for my "band riding up problems" and everything!

    You bra bloggers are awesome!

    Thank you so much for taking every single breast into account!

    Now, I've heard about tuberous breasts (tiny, widely spaced) because one of my friends have them, this seems to be even more of an issue because it makes the breast very soft, small and not likely to find its bra. :-/

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    1. I'm glad this post was able to help you!

      I really wish I had more information about tuberous breasts being that I know there are many ladies out there with them. This is definitely a topic to bring up for another post!

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  15. Hi, just found your blog through fullerfigurefullerbust, and I'm glad to see someone address the soft breast plight when it comes to finding bras that work with the issues they present.

    I am in my late 20s', no pregnancies, and currently in the middle of losing 80-90lbs., but I have had soft, sagging breasts for as long as I can remember. I haven't tried much in my new-found correct bra size yet, but after a slightly painful breaking-in period, the Panache Fern is the first bra I don't have to constantly shift my boobs around and tuck in my empty skin cleavage constantly throughout the day, amazing!

    But as I have been coming to love and accept my body as I lose weight, I want to find something lower-cut to wear with dresses and cute tops, which full-coverage bras aren't good for. I have tried plunges in the past and they usually give me that empty quadroboob, so I wrote them off. I really want to try some EM bras, but I don't want to invest in them yet since I'll be losing more weight. Bratabase and eBay have helped with that, as has this blog posting, so thank you! Hopefully EM's BP bras will come out as soon as I reach my goal weight ;)

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  16. I forgot to mention re: Bra size calculators - they are really not accurate at all for determining cup size when it comes to soft breasts, because of the squish factor. All the online calculators I tried put me at a 34 band and G-GG cup, but I have only had successes or near-successes in 34HH-J bras.

    I'm lucky in that I could try a handful of the popular big cup/small brand bras like CK, Panache and Freya at a (very expensive) boutique store where I live to figure this out before buying bras online that are 3-4 cup sizes too small.

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    1. To your first comment. Have you tried Curvy Kate's Show girl line yet? I had a lot of success with the Thrill Me's. They're dicontinued, unfortunately, but often Brastop, Undercover experience or ebay will have them there. I hope they bring them back at some point! Also, the Ewa michalak BPs are now called S bras. I have one on order that should be here any day now so look for a review soon!

      Agreed 100% with the bra calculators. They always underestimate my size too. Only leaning forward while taking my measurements has helped to compensate for that.

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    2. I've tried a handful of CK's, and I think one from their Showgirl but it was probably the wrong size because it didn't fit well. CK's wires are too wide for me in general though :(

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  17. I also have very soft breasts (3 pregnancies and currently breastfeeding my 6 month old). My breasts are even softer now, even though I am lactating... On top of that (pardon the pun), my breast are "full on top" - basically meaning that my nipples point down and I have more skin/tissue on above the nipple than below it. This makes the spillage issue even worse for me. Even with the full coverage panache andorra, I found I would spill out when I would lean over.

    Unfortunately, I didn't begin my journey to correct bra size until I was pregnant this third time, so I've been fluctuating quite a bit and also tasked with turning all these bras into nursing bras (only to then figure out, after wearing them for a bit, that they don't work for me). I am hoping I can sell some of these Curvy Kate and Ewa Michalak nursing bras on ebay :-)

    I'm going to try to turn my nail polish blog into a more general beauty blog (probably with a lot of posts about bras! haha http://mamabeard.blogspot.com/)

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